I am retired from the Army. I will open with saying I have ZERO sympathy, empathy, or compassion for this guy.
He is being treated as he should. His VA benefits will kick in but that process is painfully slow as is typical with Government programs.
Let’s all understand something – being in the Armed forces is voluntary. Beyond that, so is being in any Special Operations Forces (Seal, Ranger, Force Recon, etc).
Perhaps he should have stayed in until he was eligible to retire. On top of that, shut about what you did as a Seal. His family might not be as much at risk if you don’t tell people what you may have done.
He could have trained in another specialty that is more marketable in the civilian sector.
I have a brother-in-law who was an Army Ranger and spent most of his time in infantry and Special Operations units. He did not retire from the Army but enjoys a good career as a U.S. Marshall primarily in a counter-terrorism role. Another was in the Air Force and upon leaving (not retired) joined the Border Patrol and then became a DEA agent.
He needs to ditch the "woe is me" and get off his butt and take what job is available to take care of his family. Then he can pursue soemthing he deems more worthy of his skill set.